Transgender issues

Transgender people feel a mismatch between their internal sense of gender and the sex of their body.

Gender can be described as our sense of maleness or femaleness, or we may not feel particularly aligned with either. 

Trans people sometimes sometimes struggle with being treated as a different gender to the one they know they are. This can be extremely confusing and distressing, particularly in children who don’t yet have the knowledge or language to make sense of what they are experiencing.

Gender identity is separate from sexual orientation.

Living as a trans person

Living as a transgender person can be challenging. Before coming out they may experience:

  • confusion
  • hatred of their appearance
  • self-disgust
  • particular distress around bodily changes in puberty.

Coming out as trans may be a relief, but it also opens them up to:

  • bullying and abuse
  • discrimination at work
  • rejection by family or friends.

Some transgender people use hormones or surgery to alter their bodies to match their gender. Some do not, and some choose to change some parts of their bodies but not others. This is a personal choice.

For those who do wish to transition, the process can be long and distressing. Before being offered surgery, trans people are required to live as their true gender. NHS waiting lists for medical treatment are very long.

Our clients have reported great results!

Mr K
“I was attending sessions at One Therapy practice for about 1 1/2 years. I am very happy with the result, sessions there really helped me. I am really grateful to my therapist. Someone recommended him to me as a high professional and it proved right, thank you.”
Mrs M
“I can only provide positive comments on my sessions with (my therapist). This was my first experience with a therapist, and she managed to make me feel comfortable. And I must say that the sessions were helpful and efficient.”
Mrs E
“My therapist was extremely helpful, considerate and understanding. I felt she properly understood what the issues I had were, and their underlying causes, and I feel I benefited considerably from the sessions with her.”
Mrs N
“I immediately felt completely at ease as they were very professional while showing genuine care and interest in helping me. I was able to confront many issues which I had so far chosen to ignore despite their negative effects on my personal relationships and happiness. I would have no hesitation in recommending (One Therapy) to anyone looking to improve their relationships and self-esteem.”
Mrs L
“I learned a lot about myself and about the relationships I make with other people. I was able to see where I was going wrong and I now make better personal choices. Thank you, again.”
Mrs R
“I can’t thank you enough for the help and support I got from my appointments. I would highly recommend therapy to anyone now. Therapy helped me in more ways than I could have imagined. Please tell (my therapist) how grateful I am for her help.”

Counselling needs to be trans-aware

Awareness of trans issues in society is fairly low; many people don’t understand what’s involved or what language is appropriate. Understandably, many trans clients don’t want to spend their therapy sessions educating their therapist; they want to work with therapists who already understand trans issues. 

Many of our therapists are experienced in this area, and we have held internal training on working with trans clients. 

We also understand that trans people aren’t just trans! The issues that you bring to therapy may have nothing to do with being trans.

It shouldn’t need saying, but no therapist should ever try to change a trans client’s gender identity. None of ours would.

Getting started with trans counselling

Your first appointment will provide an opportunity to speak with a therapist about your concerns. Your therapist will help determine how we might best support you and you will have an opportunity to ask any questions you may have.

If you are looking for a therapist experienced in working with trans clients, take a look through our profiles or contact us.

Appointments are usually available within one week of your initial contact.

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One Therapy London

Counselling, psychotherapy, couples counselling in London since 2006

Jasmine Behbahani - Therapist
Jasmine Behbahani

Jasmine is a qualified counsellor specialising in couples therapy and relationship dynamics She believes that each partner brings unique experiences and insights to their relationship and aims to create a space where both voices are heard and valued By fostering authentic connection, Jasmine helps couples explore their relational patterns, deepen their understanding of...

Bloomsbury

Damla Ciftcioglu - Therapist
Berrak Damla Çiftcioğlu

Damla offers psychodynamic psychotherapy in a supportive and confidential environment where you can explore the emotions, behaviours and challenges shaping your life Her approach focuses on understanding the deeper, often unconscious factors influencing your thoughts and experiences Whether you’re navigating a specific situation or grappling with long-standing personal...

Oxford Circus

Lara Vasey

Lara is an integrative therapist who offers short- and longer-term therapy to individuals Starting therapy can feel daunting, but Lara’s warm demeanour helps her clients feel more comfortable She creates a confidential and non-judgemental environment, which enables her clients to open up about their thoughts, feelings and experiences With empathy and curiosity, her...

Kensington

Aaron McGuinness - Therapist
Aaron McGuinness

Aaron offers a psychodynamic approach to psychotherapy which emphasises the unconscious mind and its influence on clients’ behaviour It often involves exploring past experiences and their impact on present-day thoughts and feelings Aaron creates a safe and supportive environment where clients can express themselves freely without fear of judgment Aaron is open to...

Kensington

Gregory Hamlin - Therapist
Gregory Hamlin

Gregory is a psychodynamic therapist offering both short-term and long -term therapy to individuals He appreciates how difficult it can be to seek help and therefore places great importance on creating a warm, empathic and safe space for clients to explore whatever is on their minds Gregory helps individuals uncover and understand the underlying patterns that shape...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Ben Brackenbury
Ben Brackenbury

Ben believes that at times we all struggle with the challenges life has to offer and therapy provides a safe, confidential, non-judgemental space to explore this Ben works with individuals to make sense of who they are and how they respond to the world today, and to explore new ways of being Ben is also sensitive to how difficult it might be for a client to talk to a...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Amrita Athwal
Amrita Athwal

Amrita works with adults in an integrative way, drawing on various therapeutic approaches tailored to meet the needs of each client She provides a safe space to help clients better understand themselves She offers short term and long term therapy Amrita has experience of working with clients on issues such as trauma, addiction, depression, anxiety, relationship...

Bloomsbury

Therapist Tom Deitch
Tom Deitch

Tom is a popular and approachable psychotherapist who has extensive experience working with people from a variety of social and cultural backgrounds He brings a wealth of life experience, training and understanding to his work, offering help with depression, trauma, anxiety, abuse, sexual problems, addiction, relationship difficulties and many of the other obstacles life...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Shelly Klein
Shelley Klein

As a psychodynamic therapist Shelley brings a wealth of experience to her work and supports her patients to talk about those aspects of their lives they are finding painful, upsetting or difficult to deal with, in a confidential, non-judgmental and peaceful setting Shelley is particularly interested in working with those who are experiencing depression, bereavement, high...

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Therapist Antonella Bonetti
Antonella Bonetti

Antonella is a psychodynamic therapist offering short- and long-term therapy to adults She also sees couples facing issues within their relationship Since obtaining her Master’s degree in Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy, Antonella has worked in different organisational settings (charities, NHS and university counselling services) helping people from...

Bloomsbury