Counselling for men

Though women seek therapy more often than men, the number of men using counselling services has increased in recent years.

Men seem to be at risk of some emotional and behavioural issues more than women. For example, men have far higher rates of substance abuse and antisocial personality disorders than women and are much more likely to kill themselves.

The reasons for this are both biological and cultural and often have their roots in childhood. Our culture expects boys and men to be dominant, aggressive, high achieving, competitive, self-sufficient, willing to take risks and emotionally restricted. Living up to these expectations can take a toll on men’s wellbeing.

Why men seek counselling

Although every man is different and we see men with all sorts of issues, there are some that we see commonly in men. These include:

Starting therapy

Given that our culture values self-reliance in men and discourages them from expressing their feelings, it is unsurprising that many men are hesitant to seek therapy. An important part of men’s counselling is challenging the beliefs that emotions should be kept hidden away and that it is unmanly to feel vulnerable or hurt.

Everybody feels these emotions and expressing them in therapy can make a huge difference. When we express our emotions, we no longer feel the pressure of keeping them bottled up. We no longer need to numb them with substances, distract ourselves from them with work or rationalise them away.

Our therapists are very experienced in helping clients who find it difficult to talk about their emotions. They won’t rush you or judge you.

Need counselling now?

You can book an initial appointment online or by calling us. We have male and female therapists available throughout the week. Meeting with one of them does not commit you to continuing; it is just an opportunity for you to find out more.

Our clients have reported great results!

How therapy helps

Clients are often surprised by the breadth of positive change that counselling brings to their lives. They may come about one issue and find that several other areas of their lives improve as well.

Some of the areas where men’s counselling can help are:

  • feeling more content and satisfied
  • improving communication, whether that be with partners, family, friends or colleagues
  • reducing anger and frustration
  • building confidence
  • developing clarity around career aspirations
  • improving intimate relationships
  • overcoming sexual problems
  • understanding what blocks your success and how to change it.

Couples counselling may be the best solution if your problems are to do with your relationship, and you may find psychosexual therapy helpful if you have problems to do with sex.

Both face-to-face and online counselling are available. For some men, therapy provides their first experience of talking openly and honestly about how they feel and what they want.

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Counselling for individuals

Personal counselling can be about anything that is on your mind.

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Couples counselling provides space for couples to discuss problems in their relationship and find solutions.

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Our therapists

We have over 30 qualified and experienced therapists to choose from.

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One Therapy London

Counselling, psychotherapy, couples counselling in London since 2006

Lara Vasey

Lara is an integrative therapist who offers short- and longer-term therapy to individuals Starting therapy can feel daunting, but Lara’s warm demeanour helps her clients feel more comfortable She creates a confidential and non-judgemental environment, which enables her clients to open up about their thoughts, feelings and experiences With empathy and curiosity, her...

Kensington

Therapist Jayne Levy
Jayne Levy

Jayne has a gentle and empathic approach, allowing clients to feel comfortable and relaxed as they begin therapy She offers a non-judgmental and confidential space where clients are safe to express their feelings and thoughts and explore some of the difficulties and challenges they may be experiencing As a humanistic integrative therapist, Jayne is guided by her...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Aaron McGuinness
Aaron McGuinness

Aaron offers a psychodynamic approach to psychotherapy which emphasises the unconscious mind and its influence on clients’ behaviour It often involves exploring past experiences and their impact on present-day thoughts and feelings Aaron creates a safe and supportive environment where clients can express themselves freely without fear of judgment Aaron is open to...

Oxford Circus

Kensington

Therapist Geraldine Lothian
Geraldine Lothian

Geraldine (she/her) is a psychodynamic psychotherapist who works with individuals Geraldine’s style of therapy is to work collaboratively with her clients and at each client’s pace  It is sometimes difficult to make the decision to start therapy but Geraldine works together with her clients to address any issues that may feel difficult to explore on their own ...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Yussef Ferguson
Yussef Ferguson

Yussef is a psychodynamic psychotherapist who offers both long and short term personal therapy to individuals He has experience of working with a diverse range of clients and can provide a warm, confidential space to explore and gain insight into any past or present personal difficulties and experiences Yussef works with issues such as anxiety, depression, loss,...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Marta Pisarri
Marta Pisarri

Marta is a psychologist and an integrative psychotherapist: she has been working in the field of mental health for over 12 years in both private and public sectors She provides psychotherapeutic support to individuals and families Marta provides individual therapy for those who struggle to manage life's challenges, want to improve their relationships, discard thoughts...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Shelly Klein
Shelley Klein

As a psychodynamic therapist Shelley brings a wealth of experience to her work and supports her patients to talk about those aspects of their lives they are finding painful, upsetting or difficult to deal with, in a confidential, non-judgmental and peaceful setting Shelley is particularly interested in working with those who are experiencing depression, bereavement, high...

Bloomsbury

Therapist Stamatia Lorentzou
Stamatia Lorentzou

A senior therapist, Stamatia has been with One Therapy London for many years She holds a doctorate in counselling psychology and is a registered psychotherapist Stamatia knows it can be difficult to understand or cope with the strong feelings that life’s experiences can sometimes bring Talking with an experienced therapist is a way of thinking things through and...

Bloomsbury

Therapist Evan Bates
Evan Bates

Evan is a psychodynamic therapist, offering both long and short term therapy He creates a non-judgemental and reflective space to help clients explore their difficulties and concerns Working together to understand the connections between past and current relationships, Evan supports clients in developing a deeper awareness of their recurring emotional patterns and further...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Ben Brackenbury
Ben Brackenbury

Ben believes that at times we all struggle with the challenges life has to offer and therapy provides a safe, confidential, non-judgemental space to explore this Ben works with individuals to make sense of who they are and how they respond to the world today, and to explore new ways of being Ben is also sensitive to how difficult it might be for a client to talk to a...

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